RISK IT

RISK IT

To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.

The person who risks nothing, does nothing,
has nothing, and is nothing.

They may avoid suffering and sorrow.
But they simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, and live.

Risk must be taken because
the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
Only a person who risks is free.


*Coincidentally, i found this poem today while i was rearranging my office room.  I dedicate this poem to abang who just filed his letter of resignation last week.  Good luck :')

a funny chat of KARAOKEans

Me:  knock-knock.... sepi skaleee grup niiii.

Fsd:  Aku udah punya my next k-song.  Love story-nya taylor swift...hihiiii...

Me:  loh,  k-song koq taylor swift?

Fsd:  kenapa gitu?  *bingung

Me: lah k-song kan korean song.  Sejak kpn taylor swift jd org korea?

Fsd: Bukaaaan.... Karaoke soooooong.

Me:  hooooo....

Lesson learned:

though you have the same hobby,  that doesn't mean you speak the same language.

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A gift through a friend

Sejak kmrn, dalam doa di setiap selesai sholat aku khusus berdoa meminta agar aku bisa menjadi manusia yg berbahagia dengan apapun yg terjadi dalam hidupku. Berdoa supaya aku mampu merasakan bahagia utk hal sekecil apapun. Entah kenapa koq pengen aja berdoa kaya gitu. Sepertinya alam bawah sadar sedang memberi sinyal kalo belakangan aku sptnya sulit utk merasa. Semua flat... And it is not right (maybe left...no, kidding)
Allah menjawab doa itu.
Malam ini mata hatiku (kembali) dibukakan bahwa bahkan hal sepele seperti memiliki telapak kaki yg berlekuk (tidak flat) mrpkan anugrah yg luar biasa besar. Seorang teman dekat, putrinya menderita multiple skeliosis, sejenis kelainan pada tulang belakang yg menyebabkan dia tidak bisa menegakkan tubuhnya kecuali dengan bantuan brace utk menyangga sampai ke lehernya. Hal ini diperparah dgn kondisi telapak kaki yg flat. Tnyata Allah SWT telah menciptakan bentuk telapak kaki manusia sedemikian telitinya utk bisa berfungsi sempurna. Telapak kaki yg tidak berlekuk tnyata memberatkan tulang belakang sehingga dalam jangka wkt panjang menyebabkan tulang belakang bengkok. Aku bahkan gak pernah memperhatikan hal itu.
Utk bisa terbebas dari brace itu, setahun lalu putrinya menjalani operasi tulang belakang dengan resiko 50:50. Biaya yg dikeluarkan temanku dan suaminya ini sdh pasti luar biasa besar. Selama proses menjelang dan sesudah operasi, banyak masa2 kritis yg nyaris membuat temanku hilang harapan (aku baru tau itu malam ini). Selama ini gak pernah keluar dari bibirnya keluhan, protes thd keadaan, atau perilaku2 labil yg kadang ditunjukkan org yg sdg dalam problema berat. Aktifitasnya tetap sama. Dia bahkan menyempatkan diri menemani aku ke dokter bbrp bulan lalu. Tetap mengajar, tetap mengurus kegiatan sosial, dan tetap 'bawel' pada teman2nya. Aku lebih sering mendapati dia mensyukuri kemajuan kondisi putrinya ketimbang melihatnya dalam kondisi melankolis krn penyakit putrinya.
Sekarang dia sudah memulai kuliah S3nya melanjutkan spesialisasi magisternya. Dia sudah mulai rajin ngomporin aku supaya balik sekolah lagi dengan alasan spy dia punya sparring partner. Aku nyengir2 aja kalo dia udah mulai 'ngebawelin' aku dengan hal satu itu. Terakhir sblm dia menutup bbm-an kami malam ini, dia bilang:
"... Byk hal dlm hidup yg didapat dari kesulitan. Teman dan kesempatan menolong orang lain...."
Alhamdulillah...mungkin ini salah satu keajaiban Ramadhan. Allah telah menjawab doaku melalui teman satu ini. Semoga dia mendapatkan kebaikan yg lebih banyak dariNya karena telah menjadi perantara datangnya kebaikan buatku. Amiiin.

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Those swearing words

Last weekend, I got a text from an old friend, a friend in my college. She asked me to go out with her to the mall. "I'd like to buy sport shoes. would u accompany me?" she said. Since I didn't have any plans that day, i accepted her invitation. Actually, i was wondering what made her impulsively ask me to go out while we had met just a week before. Anyway, I didn't think much of her invitation.

We ended up browsing for sport shoes, having lunch, and watching movie together. During lunch she told me that one of her subordinates wrote something bad about her in fb status. I asked her how it happened. My friend told me she reprimanded her subordinate for her carelessness. This person couldn't accept that. Even though actually it was indeed her mistake. This person spilled out her grudge by swearing very improper statements through fb status. I asked my friend whether her words were sharp when reprimanding this person. My friend said she said things in a very controlled emotion with controlled words and did not touch personal matters. She told me every single word she said which I think normal for a boss to reprimand her subordinate. My friend knew this person couldn't take it since she was crying after that and threatened to quit. My friend never thought that she would vent her anger through fb with those kinds of words.
Me, with my curiosity, still couldn't get how bad the words are until my friend showed me the saved note from her BB. I couldn't recall the complete status. What stuck in my head was these words:
"....dasar perempuan mandul! gue sumpahin seumur hidup gak bakal dapet keturunan...."
and of course the status was open for everybody including all the people around her office plus the branches...
I wasn't the one getting the attack...still, I gasped in disbelief...
My friend was crying while I was reading the status and comments (which, of course, worsened the situation).
This case is, of course, not the first case and may not be the last case when people venting their true thoughts, feelings, hatred, love, etc through this social network.
But I do not want to discuss about facebook, for sure. It's the status....the statements. If I were my friend, I would completely shiver reading the status and comments. It was just so bad...
I think nobody...not one...has the right to judge anybody 'mandul'... It's God thing, as far as I know.
Do you think if u can have children, then automatically u are considered successful in your marriage? having a perfect marriage?
I've seen parents who feel really proud of their children while at the same time they are treating those kids like properties. They make decisions without thinking about the effect for their kids. They can always say "My kids are fine. They are doing fine!"
I don't think that people who haven't got kids cannot play the role of parents, as well as people who have kids can be true parents.
Well, God knows...